Are you going to be a Natural with women or a Charismatic?
Written by Seduction Tutor in Social Skills, Attraction, Lifestyle
Are you going to be a Natural with women or a Charismatic?The worst problem guys have is that they can’t seem to overcome their hesitation, fear, and serious attitude around women. The problem is, we don’t have the right people to model and copy – guys who are just naturals with women.
We’ve all known that guy from school or work who just seemed to get lots of women effortlessly, without lines or routines or seduction formulas. This guy was just, well, a Natural with women and we envied his seemingly magic talent. Another group of men that has an uncanny success with women is The Charismatic. Such men possess a raw charisma that shines through in group situations.
So the question is, what’s the difference between true Naturals and Charismatics, and how do you incorporate the secrets and skills of one or the other… or both?
Being a true Natural with women is all about letting go and letting loose. Whereas most guys have had their fresh, carefree, childlike spirit beaten out of them, the Natural is, above all else, playful, with a smile on his face and a glint in his eye.
Whereas most guys have learned through school and work to act carefully and deliberately, trying to always please, thinking of how they look in other’s eyes, Naturals are blissfully uncaring, lighthearted, and don’t take anything too seriously.
In this way, Naturals are like children, infecting everyone around them with their youthful impulsiveness and spontaneity. Their playfulness translates into a fearlessness and brazenness with women that most other men have lost. And this relaxed playfulness has an intoxicating effect on women, promising them the chance to come out of their own shells of boring conformity.
The Charismatic man is particularly successful in groups of people. It’s his smoothness with language that makes him stand out - when he speaks, he uses storytelling, vivid imagery, and delightful spontaneity to move the group to laughter, excitement, and mass euphoria.
The Charismatic knows how to use his body language to command attention, using sweeping physical gestures, animated expressions, and piercing eye contact. When he speaks, he puts his audience into a sort of hypnotic trance, and no one can take their eyes off of him.
As a result, people feel alive and energized around him, like a kind of electric current passes between him and the group, feeding off one another. Men want to follow him and women want a chance to be with him.
The Charismatic is no entertaining clown however. He makes girls compete and work for his reward and approval, and does not reveal all of himself at once.
And whereas most men hesitate before taking bold action, The Charismatic acts with single-minded self-assurance. He expresses what others are afraid to express. He says what others want to say, but don’t. He does not apologize for who he is or go halfway- and he is never afraid of going too far. It’s this unbridled openness that’s part of his magnetic attraction to women.
You see, most girls are in fact, incredibly bored with their lives. They attempt to suppress their inward sexuality and inner feelings because it is socially unacceptable. Yet women crave openness, adventure, and wild passion.
It’s the Charismatic’s unshakable confidence, sense of adventure, and open acts of social risk that hits women like a thunderclap. He delivers the intense, emotional fix and escape from reality that they’re looking for.
Your First Step
Now you can focus on becoming more of a Natural with women or a Charismatic into your own core personality.
But being natural and having raw charisma can’t come from traditional book study. That’s why renowned hypnotist Damian Transari and I have developed two new trance CDs designed to put your mind into the state of the natural and charismatic archetypes.
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live your life to the fullest...
… what's your excuse been lately?
Back in 2001 I stumbled upon a book called Mode One. I was 15 at the time (just turning 16)
and I always wondered how my friends were getting laid like hell and yet I was always the
friend. They would always give me advice like just be yourself, grow some balls or just go for it
but I couldn't see in my mind how that would work. As far as my experience went I was too
I read this book, not once, but 4 times in the very same day. In my mind I was saying shit like “I
cant say that!” or “are you fucking serious?” but I decided to hell with it, I'll put it to the test. 2
days later one of my friends invited me to a house party (back then they were frequent to the
point where you could go to 3 in 1 Friday night) so since I didn't know anyone at this party, I
thought “fuck it, I don't care what happens 'cause I won't see anyone again”. To cut a long
story short, I saw this cute Asian girl (I'd give her an 8 back then) and I made a bee-line for her. I
came close and just whispered in her ear "I've got a secret for you". She said “what is it?” My
response? "I want to fuck you and maybe tomorrow too" (looking back it still sounded lame as
fuck). She gave me the fuck me now eyes back, my gut kicked in like a mother fucker. Next
thing I know I grabbed her hand and just said "follow". The rest is history (that's how I actually
lost my virginity).
Looking back that was quite the life changer. I stopped counting after my 92nd lay (the day I
turned 18) because I went toward the harem side of things (oh the days!). Along the way I've
learnt many lessons that I want to share with you.
Editors Note: Thou shall not smoke pole – just kidding fellas. :-)
1. Trust Thy Gut - There's 2 voices in your head. One that will try to protect you and one that
makes things happen. Your mind will always be there to say you can't do this, but there's
another voice. Most of the time it stays mute because we CHOOSE not to listen to it. This voice
is the one that makes you do or say things when you feel the fear of x but do it anyway.
Regardless of criticism or rejection, if you have a little voice going FUCKING SAY THIS NOW...
do it! Or FUCKING DO THIS NOW... do it!
2. State Your Intentions - This may be that you want to fuck the shit out of her or you just want
a friendship. Whatever your intention is, state it and don't apologise for it (never back down
EVER!) Don't wait to say “want to come back to mine to watch a movie?” 3 hours into the
conversation only to get swiftly rejected because she knew you were beating around the bush.
Whatever you want, state it in the now. Not the soon. Not 2 hours later. NOW!
3. Expand Your Friend's Numbers By At Least 100 - Expand your own social life. If you don't
have your phone ringing every day to see if you're free to come to whatever club or party
expand your numbers. And not even just because your sole purpose is to hook up, but because
you enjoy going out to party and have a good laugh regardless. (Editors Note: I don't think this
is completely necessary but having good friendships and being social is important in general.)
4. Don't Masturbate In General – This one is obvious. Kills your desire to go for girls point
blank. If you're in the mood and haven't got a fuck buddy to call, tough. You're going to have
to get one aren't you? (Editors Note: Like above, I don't think it is completely necessary as you
can determine the effects masturbation has on your sex drive on your own.)
5. Don't Ever Live In Regret - Don't be that should've could've would've guy... DO IT! Starting
your own business, skydiving (highly recommended) or that cute Swedish student that works
at Tesco's (even more highly recommended)... whatever it is you want, go for it and don't
regret that you went for it.
6. How Fake Are You Or Have You Been - Think about that for a moment. How much of you is
honest and how much of it are you trying to fake? Are you trying to portray an image so people
will like you? I say fuck that! A man that is honest with himself and other people is harder to
find then a hot girl. In fact, it's probably less than 1%. Girls love honesty. More over, they fucking
crave it. A guy that has the balls to be honest and say in his own words “yes, I'm here to fuck
you and get to know you” with no bullshit, no lies and no backing down... she will cling to you
like a motherfucker.
7. Stop Reading And Watching Pickup - If you have read over a couple of months all these
ebooks and videos STOP! Literally. Stop. Read up on the female anatomy or how to make girls
squirt instead. There's your homework guys. Think of it like this - what's better? Thinking of the
next story/line and thinking about what she is thinking or thinking “yeah, I can make you squirt
a lot!”. Creates a nice little spin on things and definitely makes it fun when you're not thinking
of what you're saying and you're just talking.
8. Start A Workout Routine - This can be something as light as a few runs every week or doing
P90x. Just get your blood pumping. This is for YOU and nobody else! Remember, it's your body
so take good care of it. (Editors Note: I recommend the Spartan Health Regime plus MMA
9. Stop Watching Porn - Guys actually don't see how important this is. Stop for a month or two
and see the difference in your sexuality. You will probably approach from this alone too.
10. Approach - Now I'm not going to give you some fluffy fantasy world where you say the
magic words and your fear becomes non-existent or where you have the technique to create
some sort of fake confidence. That's all you get from reading these PUA techniques - fake
confidence, because if you had the confidence you would already do it. True reality - stop
looking for this confidence. It's the courage to do things even if they may or may not succeed
that will build confidence. You never know until you find out with your action. So if you see a
girl you want to know, approach and then say the words that hit your mind as your about to
open your month. You won't know what happens if you don't approach. You won't suddenly
wake up with big balls one day and approach shit loads of girls. It comes from experience and
experience only. Realise that and start building your BIG BALLS TODAY! (Editors Note: Build big
balls). The true reality is that no one else is going to approach for you.
So realise there is no easy way out. No product will suddenly give you massive balls. It comes
from you and only you. So think simply - cute girl > approach > state intentions > set up date or
back to your place later. It can be that easy. You're just not allowing yourself to think its that
easy. If you can live life with those 10 things in place, not only will you have a lifestyle that will
need a membership to Red Bull to keep you awake, you will live a life where you never have any
regrets nor will you have to fake your persona to anyone.
If you don't start aiming for the life you want right now with all you have got, you will think "I'll
do it tomorrow" and the cycle will continue.
Imagine this scenario for a second: you have a man pointing a gun point blank at you. He says
in order to live you must shout at the top of your lungs your last regret. If you lie to yourself
you die. What is your answer?
Happiness is, by default, always in us. It's you that is causing your own depression through your
own past. The past is the past. You can't change it so why remember it if it brings back
unwanted emotions. Accept it and move on.
You seem too much of a “shoulda, woulda, coulda” type of guy. In essence, pure laziness
mentality. That's the reason you're not fulfilling your own personal goals. Why aren't you going
towards your own goals? No one else is going to do it for you.
You say that talking to girls is boring? Maybe you're talking about shit that is drab unnecessary
small talk. Make it interesting. Talk about shit you want to talk about, not what you think they
want to hear.
You say that you lack motivation to do any action when it comes to putting time into girls and
taking action on IOIs. It's not lack of motivation. It's fear. You fear something might turn
negative towards you. Stop living in this fear. If something happens, it happens. Accept it, and
move the fuck on.
If you want the most from life the one thing that every man needs is balls. Take what you want,
when you want, without hesitation or fear. This applies to all aspects of life. If you live your life
with the balls to have the courage to take risks, that in itself is a way of life. If you start trusting
your own gut you would do things you would never have done before. Yes, mistakes happen.
Live with them but realise you haven't got any regrets to live by.
Direct game takes a while to master. You can't go out from having no balls to having huge
balls overnight. It's a progress path.
Direct game is all on mindset and how true you are with yourself. Why did you pick up a girl you
weren't really attracted to? Fear maybe? Or was it because you thought you didn't deserve the
hot ones in some strange belief?
Change the way you think. Be true to your own intentions. If you see some one you are
genuinely attracted to, approach and see what happens. Don't let the fear nor doubt get you
and always concentrate on the approach, not your results! If you do concentrate on the results
you're setting yourself up for disaster. You come off as needy, etc.
If you stick with it for more than a few months you will have more fuckbuddies than you have
Most people don't understand the whole point of being direct, usually because they fear the
rejection or what people will think of them. If you get rejected in a house party going Mode
One, so what? Trust me on that one. If you have the balls to be honest in a bold way even if you
get rejected her friends will be very curious!
Say “So what?” to your own fear let whatever happens, happen!
By the way - inner game only comes from experience and throwing yourself in the fire. By
repeatedly facing things in your life, you gain the confidence to handle similar situations. This
does not come from books.
A lot of people would drop the direct approach on the first couple of days due to the heavy
criticism or rejection. Stick with it! It's not an overnight process.
Being direct is not an just an opener it's a lifestyle, my style is 100% sexual in terms of women
hence if your are a heavily sexual person your are always direct regardless.
In terms of results, I chose my lifestyle back several years ago and its got me a couple of
hundred lays (haven't kept count exactly), a couple of good harems and a lot of threesomes,
then again I never knew of the "community" until 3 months back and I'm just here to share my
How I open depends on what I like about the girl, what mood I'm in or just generally what I feel
like saying. I will say things to make my intentions known. As for getting a phone number it
totally depends on the situation though I usually get asked for mine.
I don't have a technique it's just who I am but I had help from a book Mode One. It kinda
showed me that it's ok to be the real you (the you that just wants to cut through the bull and
games and say this is who I am). That's the only self help book I've ever read.
For my lifestyle, well I posted how I tend to live my life. Try the 5 points (Editors Note: now 10
points) for a month or two and see how much you will learn about yourself.
I mostly would go to clubs and parties (got to love uni parties) because that's where I love
spending my time. That's where I'd say 60% of the women in my life I came to meet. The others
were in my everyday places where I tend to go e.g. local shops etc. But I don't go to clubs or
parties just for the sake of hooking up with someone, I love meeting new people and if there's
a nice cute someone who happens to be there, well it's a bonus.
As for going for the close, the girl already knows what I'm about, so it could depend where I'm
at or whatever. No need to think about it. As for meeting up with a girl, it's usually back to my
pad. I don't go on dates, like go out for coffee, unless I actually want a coffee or whatever. I do
generally what I want to do. Some times when I go out shopping for clothes or whatever I'll
just give them a call and see if they want to tag along because I'm going out regardless.
As for meet to lay, it depends. It can be an hour, it can be 2 days time. For me it is not
important, I know it's happening anyway. Getting harems? Well I'd say if you're ready or think
you're ready just be honest with the women and what you want. They either accept it or don't.
Tip on threesomes: if you don't ask, you don't get. As for age? Well i generally stick to the age
group I'm in. When I was 16, it was 16 year olds. When I was 18, it was 17-19 and so on. As for
race? Swedish, Asian, Brazilian, a few Russians, some Spanish, couple of blacks but most of the
girls were from the UK or the USA (I travelled a lot for a year after I hit 19).
The more you are true to what you want from life, the more you become it. That's how I
became heavily sexual. I was true to what I wanted and from that being direct was who I was
because of my busy lifestyle and personal experiences. Best advice you will ever get is don't
think just FUCKING do it and don't look back.
Its been a while since I posted here. Being well too busy, summer was a blast though. Yet, I still
see the same shit. What product do I use? What shit do I need to read to do this or that. Most
of you really do care too much. Stop giving a fuck!
Most of you already know that no matter how much you read its going to do fuck all to you if
you don't learn to live your life to the full.
If your thinking “Oh God, what technique/method do I need to use to get that girl” then you
obviously give too much of a shit to even enjoy the moment you're in. Some girls will be into
you, some wont. Get the fuck over it. All you really need to know is to be open sexually, be
comfortable in your own skin and take what you want in life. Simple. Anything else should be
Example: You think you're ugly, the girls into you though. You think she gives a fuck if you think
you're ugly, not really.... so stop believing in your own bullshit.
You should come to the realisation that to live a happy life is born of its own success. Don't live
your life for anyone but yourself. Find a passion in life. If your goal in life is just to get laid by a
couple of hot girls then believe me you will be unhappy and always looking for the next girl.
From personal experience, it took me till I got over 80 lays to actually grow the fuck up, mature
a little and learn its not all about getting laid. It's more just about enjoying the moment, going
for what you really want and being totally open sexually.