The Importance of Masturbation ~ for
Women and masturbation is rarely discussed in comparison to other topics about
sexuality. Yet the female sex toy industry makes tens of millions of dollars a year. Then
why is it still so taboo?
Masturbation is a fundamental element in enjoying a healthy sexuality and a confident
lifestyle. By exploring your body by yourself you discover what feels good for you,
which you can communicate to your partner. Orgasms, whether they are by yourself or
with a partner, release tension, allowing your body to relax. And most importantly, it's
fun. Whether you've never orgasmed before, have just lost your sex drive, or have wanted
to try it and never have, masturbation is a great way to explore your sexual limits.
Unfortunately, many more men than women masturbate, or at least admit to it. According
to The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior released in 1992, only 38 percent of women
masturbate on a regular basis in comparison to 55 percent of men. But more recently
Redbook, the women's magazine, conducted their own survey to discover that 68% of
married women masturbated.
Here are a few key tips to get started in exploring yourself, allowing you to enjoy sex
with your partner more. Remember that there's no "right" or "wrong" way, as long as it
feels right. You may not orgasm the first time, or even the first few times. Like anything
worth it, you'll have to practice what feels right for you.
Exploring yourself is a great way to get comfortable with your body. Many women are
self-concious during sex, which inhibits their ability to get lost in the moment. Take deep
breaths, and tighten your PC muscles. Consider looking up Kegel exercises, which
strengthen the muscles, giving you more control. Stroke yourself, with varying degrees
and pressure, paying special attention to what feels best. Try varying pressures, speeds,
Lubrication is vitally important. A great product that lubricates and stimulates blood flow
to erogenous tissue, increasing sensitivity and enhancing climax, is HerSolution Gel™.
Don't just focus on the genitals; take time to explore your whole body, concentrating on
your most sensitive parts such as breasts. If there is a trigger that usually lights you up
during sex with a partner, then try to incorporate that into your solo play if possible.
This is a great time to explore fantasy and sexual taboos. Exhibitionism for the Shy
author suggests breaking your own sexual limits - such as, if you've wanted to talk dirty
in bed with your partner, then try it out first to yourself when you're alone. This will
make you more comfortable with the idea, even if it only happens when you're alone. By
yourself, there is no one else to please - the focus is on you. See what gets you hot and
bothered. Remember, it is completely normal to fantasize about someone who isn't your
Now it's up to you what you take out of this exploration, but if you'd like to continue
feeling great, communicating all that you learned you like with your partner is important
to a more fulfilling sex life. And while you're at it, remember to pick up some